11 April By Lisa Mendes | mendasweed

“Say WATT?!” So you want to stay in the house…

broken family after a bitter divorce settlement and separation with a couple in a bad
  The comment I often hear from many of my divorce clients is, “Well, I want to stay in the house.”  This is completely understandable-it is where your kids are comfortable, it is where you are comfortable, you don’t want to relocate yourself, your kids, etc., during the stressful time.  It is just one more thing to worry about.  Trust me, I get it.  Moving is right up there with divorce for being one of…
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11 April By Lisa Mendes | mendasweed

You Do Not Have to Get Hit. Understanding the misnomer in the term “Domestic Violence”

portrait of crying woman with smudged makeup
  The term “domestic violence” is misleading.  Why?  Because violence is in no way required to satisfy the requisite need for a Domestic Violence Restraining Order (DVRO). Under the Domestic Violence Prevention Act (DVPA), as well as related case law, actual violence is not required to establish the need for, and right to a restraining order.  This is a common misconception.  I often hear the most egregious stories of abuse: mental and emotional, and when…
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2 April By Lisa Mendes | mendasweed

You Can’t Handle the Truth: Divorce Mediation, can you really handle it?

A Few Good Men - You can't handle the truth
  Many clients come in seeking an initial consult and mention possibly engaging in divorce mediation with their spouse.  Divorce mediation can be a productive process, and if both parties truly participate, it can save a very substantial amount in legal fees.  The caveat is that both parties must truly participate. What does this mean?  You must leave selfishness and ego at the door.  There are a select amount of cases which can successfully complete…
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19 March By Lisa Mendes | mendasweed

Summer is Coming … Where are you taking “MY” kids?

child summer vacation
You are super excited to take the kiddos on that big summer trip. So, you reach out to your ex to lock it in and you either get denied the vacation time, or told you need to reschedule it. Wait, what? But they are your kids. And vacation is going to be so fun. And you have already paid for it. The summer schedule always lends itself to issues with child custody, and the custodial schedule, especially when it…
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12 February By Lisa Mendes | mendasweed

The Impact of the #MeToo Movement on Incidents of Civil Harassment

The #MeToo movement is gaining strong momentum since its inception in the fall of 2017. We’ve witnessed it in the workplace, on social media, on TV, among fellow students, and on the playing field. It is broadening awareness among adolescents, teens, and adults that sexual harassment is not to be tolerated and that victims are not to be silenced. Our history of hiding or not bringing to light sexual assault and harassment has come to…
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16 November By Lisa Mendes | mendasweed

Division of Assets in a Divorce: Why Consulting a Family Law Attorney is in Your Best Interest

division of assets
  When you divorce, state law requires you and your partner to divide the marital assets in a manner that is reasonable and acceptable to both parties.  In the best case, both parties will cooperate and be fair about the division of assets.  In the worst case, one or both parties may contest particular assets, claim an asset is separate property, or hide assets. Whether you and your spouse have a contentious or amicable relationship,…
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4 November By Lisa Mendes | mendasweed

Shining the Light on Domestic Violence

domestic violence
  If you’re reading this, chances are, either you or someone you know, has been a victim of domestic violence. Defined by the United States Department of Justice’s Office on Violence Against Women, the definition of domestic violence is “a pattern of abusive behavior in any relationship that is used by one partner to gain or maintain control over another intimate partner.” The Surgeon General has deemed domestic violence as the number one health concern…
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21 August By Lisa Mendes | mendasweed

Deciding if a Pre-Marital Agreement is Right for You and Your Partner

woman signing prenuptial agreement in court
  Getting married and planning for your future with your life partner is an exciting and romantic time. Planning for your future with a pre-marital agreement, while not as exciting and romantic, is something that you should consider equally important. What is a Pre-Marital Agreement and Why Would I Consider One? A pre-marital agreement is a legal document signed prior to marriage that establishes the assets, property, and or financial rights of a couple in…
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